Have you ever watched a heated political debate and wished for a more respectful dialogue? As we navigate another election season, I've found inspiration in an unexpected place: English Premier League soccer. Let me explain how video assistant referees and the apostle Paul's teachings can guide us toward more honorable political conversations.
The Art of Respectful Review
Recently, I've become a soccer fan, thanks to my kids. As I've watched more games, I've grown to appreciate the English Premier League's video review system. What sets it apart isn't just the technology, but the way the referees communicate:
"Got an outswinging corner. Ball out of play. Could be a question mark."
"Looking back. Possible offside shot, possible handball."
"We will check it. For me, the arm is out…"
Notice the language they use: "possible," "could be," and "for me." Before reaching a conclusion, they have a conversation about what they've actually seen. They're not drawing conclusions before having all the evidence. This approach opens the opportunity for someone to admit that maybe what they saw or thought they saw was incorrect.
Here's the key takeaway: Getting it right is more important to them than being right.
What if we approached our political discussions with the same mindset?
Honoring Others: A Biblical Mandate
In Romans 12:10, the apostle Paul writes, "Love one another with genuine affection. Outdo one another in showing honor." This isn't just a suggestion – it's a command for those of us who follow Jesus. But what does it mean to honor others, especially those we disagree with politically?
Pastor and theologian John Wesley defines honor as "habitually considering what is good in others." This definition challenges us to look beyond someone's political opinions and see their inherent worth as a person created in God's image.
Three Ways to Honor Others in Political Discussions
1. Focus on what unites, not what divides
Often, we share similar goals with those on the opposite side of the political spectrum. We may want to reach the same destination but disagree on how to get there. For example, most people want safer schools, but they differ on how to achieve that goal.
Practical step: Instead of "agreeing to disagree," try to "disagree and commit." Acknowledge your differences, but commit to honoring each other, learning more about the issues, and understanding why you've made the decisions you have.
2. Refuse to criticize those who see the world differently
As Christians, we're called to a higher standard in our interactions. N.T. Wright reminds us that "Christians need to be reminded you're not exempt from following basic human moral standards." This means resisting the temptation to engage in personal attacks or harsh criticism of those with different views.
Practical step: Before speaking or posting on social media, ask yourself: "Am I pursuing truth and peace at the same time?" Strive to communicate in a way that is both truthful and peacekeeping.
3. Engage others with curiosity
Instead of assuming we have all the answers, we can approach political discussions with genuine curiosity. This means asking questions and truly listening to understand, not just to respond.
Practical step: Use phrases like "Here's how I see it," "In my opinion," or "What am I missing?" These open the door for dialogue rather than debate.
Putting It Into Practice
As we approach another election season, let's challenge ourselves to "outdo one another in showing honor" (Romans 12:10). Here are some concrete ways to apply these principles:
1. Before engaging in a political discussion, pray for wisdom and a spirit of humility.
2. When you encounter a post or comment you disagree with, pause before responding. Consider the person behind the opinion and how you can honor them in your response.
3. Commit to learning more about issues from various perspectives, not just those that align with your current views.
4. Practice active listening in political discussions, seeking to understand rather than simply to be understood.
5. Look for opportunities to build bridges with those who hold different political views, focusing on shared values and goals.
Remember, if we win on election day but sacrifice our Christian witness and relationships in the process, we haven't truly won at all. Let's be people who can engage in respectful political dialogue while maintaining our faith and our connections with others. As we do so, we'll be living out Paul's call to "live in harmony with each other" (Romans 12:16) and reflecting Christ's love to a divided world.